Short read: stop looking for things to “fix” you

Lucy Newport • December 15, 2023

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Originally shared as part of Inbox Reflections — my weekday emails for highly sensitive women who are ready to stop binge eating.



How many times have you tried something new and thought “This is it! This is the thing that’ll stop me from binge eating”?


And then felt disappointed that it didn’t, brushing it off as you keep your eyes peeled for the next “thing”.


I did this countless times; with books, a retreat, different diets, counselling, spiritual teachings, travel, breathwork techniques, journaling… When I did my yoga teacher training I even secretly hoped it would be the thing to finally end my binge eating. 


(And I of course still catch myself doing this with other “fixes”).


It’s not that none of these things were helpful. Most of them were invaluable parts of my journey and I use many of the tools and practices that I learnt ALL THE TIME.


But I’ve realised that it’s not helpful to expect any one thing to be *that* fix.


And that instead each thing will have something for you within it; a lesson, a deepening of an understanding, a spark of inspiration that’ll help you to grow and move along your path. 


Two questions you might find helpful when trying something new in your BE recovery:

“What is here for me?” (Because not everything will be.)

And “How is this connecting me to my own medicine?”.