“I want support in my binge eating recovery but I’m scared”

“I want support in my binge eating recovery but I’m scared. What should I do?”

Lucy Newport • February 14, 2024

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Perhaps you’ve been on your binge eating recovery journey for a little while now. Maybe you’ve read a couple of books, listened to podcasts, followed a few accounts on Instagram and you’ve learnt some tools that have really helped you on your way.

And that is wonderful! Not only do you have the self-awareness to know that something has to change, you’ve also been taking action. So please, celebrate yourself for this!

But maybe you’ve reached a point where you’re still bingeing and know deep down that you’d benefit from working 1-1 with someone, but there’s that underlying fear…

The fear of someone else seeing you and hearing you in all of your “mess”.

It’s a super vulnerable spot to be in!

I get it. I really do.

At the beginning of 2019, I had been teaching yoga for about 8 months and one of my favourite teachers, Naomi, was offering her group coaching programme. It was all about finding your voice and getting out of your own way as a yoga teacher which was exactly what I needed at that point, and I had my heart set on being a part of the group.

The thing was, I really couldn’t afford it.

It was something I’d spoken to my partner at the time Mark about, and in his generous nature and because he also believed that working with Naomi would hugely support me, he booked me four 1-1 coaching sessions with her (which was under half the price of the programme) as a surprise.

And you know what? I had the biggest freakout! A full-blown meltdown…

I just about felt okay about being in a group programme because I thought I could hide within it. I could show up and get what I needed whilst being one of the “quiet ones” in the background.

But working 1-1 with Naomi would mean me fully being the focus. I knew I’d have to be open with her about where I was at, that she would ask me questions about things I’d been avoiding within myself and that I would probably cry on my calls with her.

And that was all so scary to me. I phoned Mark in a panic and told him I couldn’t do it.

Fortunately, after that initial rush of fear subsided (it probably took a couple of days), I was able to take a step back and see how it was my fear of being seen and heard that was keeping me stuck. I began to see what an incredible opportunity working with Naomi was and I actually felt excited (though still also felt sick at the idea)!

I went on to have my four sessions and I’m incredibly grateful that I did. Having someone hold space for you as you let light into some of your most tender spots is such a gift. Yes, there were tears during most of the calls but with them came lightness and clarity.

My Mum also stepped in and paid for me to do Naomi’s group programme (I’m incredibly lucky, I know) so in the end, I did it all! Those 6 months were huge for my growth.

I’m telling you this little story to say that sometimes you’ve just got to do the thing you’re afraid of.

Yes, there will be some periods in your life when it’s not the best time to focus on your binge eating recovery. Yes, not all types of support will be right for you (and you’ve got to find what most speaks to you).

But I’ve noticed that often the thing that I’m most scared of is the thing that I most need.

If you’re ready to take a brave step in your binge free journey, one that’ll give you clarity on where to focus or help you move beyond the patterns you keep repeating, apply now for a Single 1-1 Coaching Session with me.

These heartfelt sessions are a deep dive into your relationships with food, body and your worth and will provide you with your next steps to finally experience the freedom you so deeply crave.

And because I’m excited about this new offering and to work with you in this way, I’m giving the first three women who successfully apply before Friday 23rd February 2024 a free 45-minute follow-up session each!

I can’t wait to support you in your freedom.