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This is a question that Ester emailed me directly and because it’s something that often comes up further along in binge eating recovery journeys, I asked if she’d mind me sharing it and my answer with you all.
Thanks for agreeing Ester! She asked:
“I strongly feel the wish to lose weight now that I’ve gained food freedom and I would really love to hear your experience about this. Do you still face the desire of being thinner, do you have any tips to handle it or do you suggest to just let it go and provide the unconditional love and appreciation that is needed underneath?”
So in this video I share with you my most recent experience of wanting to lose weight, a couple of things for you to work with in your own journey and some words of wisdom from Ester…
Quotes from the video
“On this journey for most of us, we experience these really conflicting thoughts.”
“The less I focused on losing weight the less I binged until eventually I let go of that desire completely and my binge eating stopped.”
“I still feel like for me, there are layers of safety and trust that I need to continue to build up within myself.”
“Ask yourself ‘are these thoughts about my weight supporting my overall health of hindering it?’”
Ester: “That the hurry I had to 'lose weight asap' has now turned into 'okay, I can feel good even in a 'fatter' body, I can handle it, there's nothing to be shamed for, if my body truly wants I am able to lose weight at my pace, there's no hurry, enjoy every step and trust the process'.”
“When you align yourself more and more with the love and acceptance you talked about, you’re aligning yourself more with your authentic self and this will be part of what brings you to where you want to be [in terms of weight].”
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